you might say that i'm not in a position to say the following things. however, it is exactly because of my impartiality that i am able to say these things objectively. i hope what i say makes sense to you, and serves as something like wake-up call. if you get hurt by what i'm going to say, take it nalang as constructive criticism.
so. if you're friends with someone and you have a problem with that person, what do you do?
A. Find a solution to that problem, immediately. Compromise, work it out, whatever it takes to restore the friendship you have with that person.
B. Dwell on the problem. Find even more annoying things to irritate you about that person and basically make the whole situation worse. Your past friendship is nothing compared to the negative feelings you are feeling towards that person right now.
If your answer is letter A, then good for you! Wala na akong masasabi pa, except this: alang-alang sa friendship niyo dati (na I assume ay importante pa rin para sa iyo, kasi nga pinili mo ang letter A) ay gawin mo ang lahat para magka-ayusan na kayo. Huwag kang makuntento sa pahapyaw na gestures of reconciliation. I-career mo na ang pakikipagbati. Don't stop befriending that person because there will finally come a point when that person will realize na hindi mo siya titigilan dahil seryoso ka sa friendship niyo.
Pride, what pride? Walang pride-pride sa friendship, I tell you. Of all the things this world can do without, it's pride. Pride is the stupidest thing human beings have created, while friendship is one of the best things we will ever have in life.
Ngayon, if you chose B, ang tanong ay "Bakit ka ganyan?" Can you honestly say that you no longer care about your former friend, and that you're willing to sacrifice your past with that person over petty differences? YES, PETTY DIFFERENCES!!! Willing ka ba to hurt that person, and everybody else around you, too? If you think that your tiff with that person is something private, then you're wrong and insensitive, besides. You have to remember that your actions affect a whole bunch of other people, too, it's not just a linear process involving two parties. This is real life we are talking about, and real people are involved.
Finally, if you're mature enough, you'd realize that it's about time to reconcile with your friend. Have the initiative to make the first move. Don't let your pride, your petty differences and whatnot to get in the way of a true and lasting friendship.
Yun lang ang masasabi ko. It's all in your hands now.
so. if you're friends with someone and you have a problem with that person, what do you do?
A. Find a solution to that problem, immediately. Compromise, work it out, whatever it takes to restore the friendship you have with that person.
B. Dwell on the problem. Find even more annoying things to irritate you about that person and basically make the whole situation worse. Your past friendship is nothing compared to the negative feelings you are feeling towards that person right now.
If your answer is letter A, then good for you! Wala na akong masasabi pa, except this: alang-alang sa friendship niyo dati (na I assume ay importante pa rin para sa iyo, kasi nga pinili mo ang letter A) ay gawin mo ang lahat para magka-ayusan na kayo. Huwag kang makuntento sa pahapyaw na gestures of reconciliation. I-career mo na ang pakikipagbati. Don't stop befriending that person because there will finally come a point when that person will realize na hindi mo siya titigilan dahil seryoso ka sa friendship niyo.
Pride, what pride? Walang pride-pride sa friendship, I tell you. Of all the things this world can do without, it's pride. Pride is the stupidest thing human beings have created, while friendship is one of the best things we will ever have in life.
Ngayon, if you chose B, ang tanong ay "Bakit ka ganyan?" Can you honestly say that you no longer care about your former friend, and that you're willing to sacrifice your past with that person over petty differences? YES, PETTY DIFFERENCES!!! Willing ka ba to hurt that person, and everybody else around you, too? If you think that your tiff with that person is something private, then you're wrong and insensitive, besides. You have to remember that your actions affect a whole bunch of other people, too, it's not just a linear process involving two parties. This is real life we are talking about, and real people are involved.
Finally, if you're mature enough, you'd realize that it's about time to reconcile with your friend. Have the initiative to make the first move. Don't let your pride, your petty differences and whatnot to get in the way of a true and lasting friendship.
Yun lang ang masasabi ko. It's all in your hands now.
